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| Thursday, July 19, 2007 |
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Seven Stages of Surviving a Breakup
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KIND READERS ~ Two long-time friends of mine who were the poster children for couples that actually do work in Second Life just broke up. Needless to say they are both heartbroken, as are their many friends for them. But they are both strong, good, people and will get through this -- whether together or apart -- to find happiness again.
Men and women go through seven stages following a breakup, but they do so in no particular order -- and they may linger or return to certain stages, as well as experience a couple stages at the same time. And those stages are different for each gender.
Men
- Anger:'That bitch!'
- Crying:(Most of this will happen outside of Second Life)
- Lethargy:'Thank goodness for cheap beer and free Internet porn or I'd never put down the remote.'
- Industry: 'Wow! I'm getting so much work done -- I can do anything!'
- Overindulgance: World of Warcraft, Grand Theft Auto, Madden, dumb young hotties (both real life, simulated and Girls Gone Wild)
- Acceptance: 'Oh well, that sucked -- but not a damned thing I can do about it now.'
- Redefinition of Self: 'What doesn't kill me makes me stronger -- I just hope I don't run across a woman who will kill me.'
Women
- Anger: 'That bastard!'
- Gluttony: 'Gimme ice cream and get me my fat clothes!'
- Claiming Mutual Friends: 'You and I are still friends, right?'
- Industry:'I've rediscovered shopping... and I am so good at it I'll save lots of money!'
- Overindulgance: 'Hey! Boys like me... and they don't know how much I hate all men so I can do what I want with them!'
- Acceptance: 'That bastard!'
- Redefinition of Self: 'I'm going to start that diet, paint my room and actually go to that yoga class!'
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Leave Her or Love Her -- Those Are Your Choices
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 HEY HEARTUN ~ My first online love affair ended on what was supposed to be my wedding day -- and I never saw it coming. I got a 'dear Avatar' note card and no real explanation. I was hurt and confused. After that I was cautious for a long time.
Then I met 'her.' We were friends first, doing everything -- fishing, killing monsters, racing cars, clubbing, shopping and spending quiet time at home -- the last one being her favorite, and I like it too! She's even moved into my place and we share a garden at another location. It's been wonderful to log in and have someone there for me.
The problem is I feel like I'm trapped. Every time I log on to Second Life I'm immediately greeted by and I feel smothered. I have lots of friends that I've introduced her to, so we now share the same friends, and I'm constantly asked where she's at if she is not with me.
Before we met, I loved to explore new places and I haven't done that in a long time. She seems like she has a specific agenda but she's not talking. To make it worse, she lives in Australia and has limited bandwidth -- she can't rezz quickly after teleporting, she has inventory problems and several other frustrating issues.
This kind of stuff happens a lot and I feel obliged to keep her company. I've tried helping her overcome the connectivity issues but because of her remote location -- those issues are here to stay.
Heartun, I think I'm having connection problems as well. ~ TAINTED LOVE
DEAR TAINTED LOVE ~ Rebound love is a sweet thing, but like cotton candy -- it can make you sick if you get too much. You've found yourself a nice girl, and you love her for all the right reasons -- but you fell in love on the rebound. That really sucks, for the both of you.
She senses in you the need for something more, and she's trying to fill that need by occupying your every moment. She'll try to be online all the time just so she doesn't miss you. She'll hang out with your (now) mutual friends when you are not there so she can better understand you and please you vicariously through your friends. Her whole world revolves around you, because she can tell she is somehow inadequate.
The real shame here is that she IS a nice girl. And you two were REALLY friends... but 'friends with benefits' turned into friends who won't leave after the party is over.
It sucks, but you've got to let her know -- in no uncertain terms -- what you feel for her. Let her know that you need some space. Tell her you don't see the two of you together 10 years from now and she deserves better. Give her the "it's not you, its me" speech... but leave her or love her. Those are your choices. ~ HEARTUN BREAKER
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| Tuesday, February 13, 2007 |
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The 5 Minute Virtual Relationship
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(Name Withheld): hi, your avatar is pretty cute
(Name Withheld): what are u doing for live
(Name Withheld): living
Heartun Breaker: I am a high school teacher. You?
(Name Withheld): i deall with cloth i inport them
Heartun Breaker: That sounds very cool. Business is fascinating.
(VERY LONG PAUSE)
Heartun Breaker: Hey, I'm sure your friends think you are awesome... but you take too long to answer, don't say much about yourself in your bio, and are boreing the hell out of me.
(Name Withheld): hey am here just checking my mail
Heartun Breaker: This relationship is stifiling me... I NEED OUT! Gahhhhh!
(Name Withheld): what??????
Heartun Breaker: I'm so sorry... but I'm dumping you. Please, it isn't you... it's me. Lets still be friends, huh?
(Name Withheld): dumping?
Heartun Breaker: and I want my stuff back, but I don't want to see you ... so put it in a box and send it through a friend. And I'd better see my favorite tshirt... you know that one you like to sleep in? If you don't give it back you'll never see that earring you left at my place! I swear, I'll flush it right down the toilet!
(Name Withheld): hey what do u mean?
Heartun Breaker: You're always arguing with me. I swear, you're just like your mother! Criticizing me, and arguing with me... that's all you two do. I just can't stand it any more. I'd rather chew my own arm off than have to hear your negative crap any more! OMG, just send my stuff back. I love that Led Zepplin t-shirt!
(Name Withheld): hey do u want to buy it?
Heartun Breaker: I can't believer you! Trying to SELL me my own Led Zepplin t-shirt? What unmitigated gall!
Heartun Breaker: You never even LIKED Led Zepplin! I always had to listen to that Jay Z crap too.... oh, and Snoop Dog? Jesus fucking hell!
(Name Withheld): did u know me before?
Heartun Breaker: Before that night in Toronto? At the film festival when we fell in love.. in a drunken night of debochery? No. And now, looking back, I wish we had never broken into Vince Vaughn's hotel suite and short sheeted his bed and put cellophane over his toilet seat. (Name Withheld), I so loved you then... I knew we were RIGHT for eachother... and you went and spoiled it all.
(Name Withheld): are u full?
Heartun Breaker: Now you're saying I 'm full of shit! Jesus girl, just give me back my fucking Led Zepplin shirt. Why are you so mean?
Heartun Breaker: My god, I got my nipples pierced for you!
Heartun Breaker: And I don't even LIKE piercings!
(Name Withheld): what do mean with all this shit?
Heartun Breaker: You never did understand me!
(Name Withheld): okay
(Name Withheld): what do u mean thebn?
Heartun Breaker: thebn?
(Name Withheld): i mean then?
(Name Withheld): do u know me before
Heartun Breaker: I don't feel that I know you at all... not even now.
(Name Withheld): so then what are u talking about
Heartun Breaker:I'm talking about US... I'm talking about LOVE... I' talking about what COULD HAVE BEEN!!! Why do you torture me like this?
(Name Withheld): like how
Heartun Breaker:Like how? Like, you are holding my Led Zepplin shirt "hostage" to get back at me for loving you too much! How about that "like how"?
(Name Withheld): should i send u some shirt?
Heartun Breaker: "Some" shirt? What do you mean "some" shirt? Did you ... did you LOSE my Led Zepplin shirt? Oh... MY.... GOD!!!!
(VERY LONG PAUSE)
Heartun Breaker: What? Now the silent treatment? Fuck you!! Fuck you!!! Fuck you!! FUCK YOU!!!! You Led Zepplin hating WHORE!!!! You'll never see that earring. And those movies I took of us are going up on the fucking web!!
(Name Withheld): hey ill call fbi for u if u dont stop it
Heartun Breaker: Just give me back my Led Zepplin shirt. Please?
(Name Withheld): when did i take t from ypou?
(Name Withheld): talk to me
(Name Withheld): because i dont realy know what nis wrong with you
(Name Withheld): i guess you must be crazy
Heartun Breaker: We could have been so good for each other. Who would have expected it to end like this?
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| Sunday, February 11, 2007 |
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Gor Gal Pal Turns Second Life Stalker Nightmare
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 HEY HEARTUN ~ I'm going freaking (can I say 'fucking' here?) nuts! I have been at Second Life for about two months now and when I first got here (oh, I'm really 27 and male from Cincinnati and am a banker) I played around with Gor for a while. It didn't stick, but this girl I met in Ko-Ro-Ba really DID stick, if you know what I mean.
Hey, I'm sorry I came on all strong with her and all. I was recently out of a divorce and new to all this online crap. Anyway, when I broke it off with her I tried to explain that I just wasn't comfortable with where were were going and that she was a nice girl -- but I just got in too fast and too deep. At first she seemed to take it well, but then I noticed that when I was at some of my favorite hangouts she would just be there watching me. I muted her, but she knows where I hang out.
Yesterday while I was playing Tringo at the IceDragon (shout out to mah peeps! woot!) she was sitting behind me! Worse than that she IMs people I know and asks them to forward messages to me. I can't ditch this alt, because I have a lot of friends now. And I don't think its right that I gotta stop going to my regular hang outs. What the hell? ~ REBOUND LOTHARIO
DEAR REBOUND LOTHARIO ~ What is it about Gor that attracts you post-divorce idiots? (Note to Goreans opening emails now: The prior statement does not say all Goreans are post-divorce idiots... so cool your jets.)
Look at it from the girls perspective. She's needy and feels inadequate in her life and finds a very structured world where she is valued. Sometimes she is valued in exact terms by having a blue book value in the Gorean slave market. Other times she is valued for performing hours of loving labor like sweeping a house or doing dishes. Men want her! And she never has to think for herself, which makes her feel good. Then you show up, pretend to see that special "her" that no one else can see -- and now doing the dishes doesn't quite hold the same attraction for her that it once did.
Then you back away. Why wouldn't she stalk the shit out of you? You practically begged for it!
You say you don't want to ditch your current avatar's account so you can take this one of two ways. The mature thing to do is to ignore her and wait for her to just go away. If she's ignored, you know she eventually will withdraw to some place safe -- like Gor. Then there's the Gorean way o ditching her.
Start playing in Ko-Ro-Ba. Make up with her. Enslave her. Then sell her to someone who won't allow her to talk with you. As I understand it she would have to obey her new master or be subjected to group punishment. ~ HEARTUN BREAKER
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| Tuesday, February 6, 2007 |
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"Give Me Your Heart": Go Fish!
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 HEY HEARTUN ~ I'm a guy and supposed to be into guy like things, and fishing stereotypically falls into that category -- but ever since my girlfriend has taken up with virtual fishing at Neo-Realms Fishing Camp in Alston. She's freaking addicted!! I can't stand how boooorrrrrreeeeeing it is to hang out with her there. I mean, she stands there with a fishing rod and every once in a while a "fish" gets dumped into her inventory. She gets so excited when she gets a new kind of fish, but she doesn't do anything with them! WTF?
We used to hang out at this cool club where we met. Now she drags me to this fish pond. I hate it! ~ BAIT HATE
DEAR BAIT HATE ~ I'm trying to figure out how you built up so much anger. I'm guessing one of two things: either you complain a lot or you don't ever complain. They sound like opposites, but they're two sides of the same coin. If you are always going on and on to your girlfriend about the many things that bother you -- you are frustrated because she stopped listening to you a long time ago. If you never complain, you also feel frustrated because she isn't listening to what you aren't saying.
Either way you have to engage her in a conversation where you let her know about your discomfort in an assertive but non-aggressive way. Start out with a bunch of "I" statements. Like "I am really bored when we fish all the time" and "I would like to go dancing with you more" or "I really don't like fishing and this isn't working for me." (DANGER: This last one is very close to a threat. Do NOT threaten her. Under no circumstances should you say anything along the lines of "I really don't like fishing and will leave you if you keep doing it." Threats don't work.)
She may not listen at first because this kind of talk from you will be new to her. If after hearing you she can't give you what you need in this relationship -- throw her back. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. ~ HEARTUN BREAKER
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| Monday, January 22, 2007 |
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Therian Asks: "I Followed Him, Do I Let Him Know?"
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 HEY MATTIE ~ I'm a 27-year-old female, working as a cashier in TN. I've been playing There for years with the same partner.
My man, (name withheld), started playing Second Life about six months ago. I don't think he came here to have an affair, but he kept the same name. I came here looking for him, but I didn't keep the same name and I know where he is because of his picks. How do I get the spark back in our thing? And do I tell him who I am? ~ BEEN THERE
DEAR BEEN THERE ~ I wouldn't tell him. I'd be afraid he'd think I was insecure and that I was stalking him to find out the secrets he's been hiding from me.
There are several ways you can go about this. Obviously, you can approach him anonymously and try to "spark" a new relationship. But if he ditches the There you for the Second life you -- is it rejection? How would you deal with that mess? And what if he ditched you alltogether if he finds out the truth?
A wiser person than me would tell him the truth. At least the part about who you are. Then explain that you might like to get to know him in SL as well, hoping maybe you can find that thing together that you were missing in your real relationship.
All-in-all, I would wish you the best of luck in any approach you take. But the best solution tends to lie in openness and honesty, in my opinion, because when he sees that you can accept him for who he is, regardless of what he's done in the past, or what you've done in your past, he will love you more and you will grow to love him more yourself. ~ MATTIE SWAIN
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| Saturday, January 6, 2007 |
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Finger Banging Anshe's Mom
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HEY HEARTUN ~ A couple of weeks ago I was listening to my radio whilst driving in my car and I heard that a lady was the first to make one million U.S. dollars in Second Life. This made me sit up and listen. Is it true that you can become a millionaire from Second Life? And where do I start and please don't answer by saying 'at the beginning' because I don't know where that is other than registering.
~ BOB'S YOUR UNCLE
 DEAR BOB'S YOUR UNCLE ~ Anshe Chung, Anshe Chung, Anshe freaking Chung... if I had a nickel for every greedy noob who joined Second Life because of some article in a business magazine lionizing her I'd be -– well -- I'd be Anshe Chung. The sad part is that if you talk with some of her competitors and associates, as I have, they'll all tell you how Anshe puts off this attitude that she is failing miserably. At the same time they'll tell you that public estimates of her income are vastly UNDER-reported. That said, Anshe Chung is a failure.
It's clear that what she wants is her mother's love and respect and she'll never get it. She'll never get it because I tracked down her mother and have a wonderful relationship with her. In short: I finger-banged Anshe's mom. Stack up all the Linden space bucks you want Anshe, I win.
As for making money in Second Life, there are a few tried and true methods.
- LAND SPECULATION
Anshe doesn't have a lock on buying land in bulk, improving it, then selling it for a bundle. You could also try opening a shopping mall.
- MAKING STUFF
Make stuff people want to buy, then sell it. Household products, sex toys, skins, clothing, weird gestures – the sky is the limit (well, I guess you can't make a mirror.)
- BEGGING
It's annoying, but a lot of people do it for a while. Just don't ask me, I hate beggars.
- WHORING
Don't knock it till you've tried it, even if you are a straight man. This is actually quite popular, and at most dance clubs it is apparently considered an honorable profession.
- SKILLED SERVICES
If you're good at improving land but don't have the money to buy any – hit up a land baron for a job as an architect. Or find something else people will pay for... like business consultation services, proof-reading profiles, photography, professional friend, surrogate stalker, singer, artist, etc.
- PAWNSHOP/MIDDLE MAN
Buy up things on the cheap and sell them for more money than you paid. Works in real life, works in Second Life if you check the objects permissions first.
- BUY AND SELL MONEY
Once the game of governments and Wall Street moguls, you can take advantage of exchange rate fluctuations and make money at it. Just remember, it is high risk.
- CAMPING CHAIRS
Get paid to sit in someones land. Go figure.
- BLACKMAIL/BREAK THE LAW
If you are a burly man in real life but you play a woman so that you can whore for money (see #4) you can keep an eye out for a serious homophobe, film the encounter (and copy Ims) then threaten to expose him if he doesn't pay you more. You can also do other quasi-illegal things like start a Ponzi (pyramid) scheme or grift.
- POLLS
People will pay you money for your opinion.
- GAMES OF CHANCE/SKILL
Go gamble. There are a ton of casinos, as well as Tringo, Slingo, Bingo, Greedy Greedy and a slew of other games. Then there are races involving boats, cars, motorcycles and the like.
~HEARTUN BREAKER
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| Thursday, December 28, 2006 |
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Prince Charming Wants Asshole-free Way to Ditch 'Emotional Baggage'
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HEY HEARTUN: I became involved in an in-world relationship, we partnered, and as the weeks passed she became more and more "controlling." She questioned my time spent with other friends -- especially female ones -- demanded all of my time, was overly negative with things she didn't like about my avatar, like my height and Animation Overrider choice. She is just being "clingy" in general. Then she started to question my real life relationships with women. That really turned me off!
I tried to tell her several times that things weren't working out without hurting her feelings but she just wasn't "getting it". When my first life became hectic I told her I didn't have time for SL, that I couldn't guarantee being on in the near future, and that she shouldn't wait for me. I welcomed the opportunity to escape her. I even considered creating an alt. She kept messaging me over and over for months, even when I stopped responding. We un-partnered. Since then real life situations have subsided a bit to the point where I have more time to spend in SL. She messaged me recently saying that she wants to talk about "us". I don't want to come back and have her think we're "together". How can I break it off without being an asshole? ~ RUNAWAY BOYFRIEND
DEAR RUNAWAY: Women (and a few men) like this write me all the time. (See 'Get A Life' Nov. 4, 2006 "Madly In Love") In essence, what they tell me is that they came to Second Life, found a perfect lover, had a wonderful time with much love and hot cyber sex until their "perfect" partner started pulling away. That's when they freak out. In your words, they get 'clingy.'
 You just happened to find a very needy woman who was unrealistic from the start in her expectations about this relationship. She likely does that in all her relationships, and groups all men into four categories: father figures, brother figures, evil bastards and Prince Charming. She clearly has you tagged as Prince Charming, but will likely switch you to evil bastard when you stomp out the last flicker of her misguided love. You will Mute her then, but she'll continue to stalk you and your friends and make life uncomfortable for a while. Then she'll go into a 'love hibernation' of cynicism -- saying stuff like 'all men are pigs' -- and diving into activities that she found fun before you came along. She'll be happy again one day, if wary.
Then she'll meet another guy like you. You see the weakness and need in her, and see her as a challenge to conquer. You want to prove that all men are not pigs, and that you -- in short -- are Prince Charming. You win her over, have a wonderful time with much love and hot cyber sex, until the thrill of victory fades and something akin to 'buyers remorse' sets in. You push her away. Then you watch, and feel superior, as she self destructs in a very 'clingy' and predictable pattern.
You asked me how to break it off without being an asshole. You can't. You need to break it off for the good of both of you, but you started this relationship preying on weakness. You are an asshole. The good news is you can change that part of you in your next relationship. You are not a father figure, brother figure or evil bastard -- but you are no Prince Charming either. Try to get to know the next woman, and let her know you, BEFORE you try putting on the Prince Charming suit. It doesn't fit anyway. And you want a woman who can handle the complexity that you are. ~HEARTUN BREAKER
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HEY HEARTUN: I came to Second Life a couple months ago and started hanging out in Club Arsheba where I met the love of my life. Other than work and (some) sleep I spent all of my time either with her or waiting for her. I bought her lots of nice things, and wrote her poetry all the time. Then the bitch dumped me! She muted me too! So I made an alt, started hanging out at the club again, and met her over again. Things went really well for a while but then she recognized me, I think from my poetry. How can I win her back? ~ THIRD TIME CHARMER
DEAR THIRD: Benjamin Franklin said 'the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.' You clearly fit that definition so lets try to improve your cover. Go to www.lyricsondemand.com and bone up on some Al Green lyrics. Instead of writing your own poetry, steal from the master. Tell her things like "I just can't stop from holding you, and I can't quit a love like this from consuming you. There must be a reason why I feel so free. Me loving you, you loving me. Your love is more than I deserve. Oh baby, you made me, you gave me your love..." Memorise a bunch of Rev. Green's lyrics and use them liberally in all your communication with this woman. Then when she finds you out again -- and she will -- go get a lobotomy, make another alt, and try using the lyrics of the Moody Blues. If that doesn't work, try picking up a new girlfriend in Port Cos.
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| Wednesday, December 13, 2006 |
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I love him, love him, love him, love him, love him!!!
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HEY HEARTUN: My sweet lover asked me to be his partner. I am so happy with my baby, he completes me. I have found him to be a treasure, my big bright shooting star that lights up my life with so much happiness. He holds my heart in his hands and it belongs to him and only him forever and ever. I love him with all my heart, mind, body and soul and will until the end of time. But as much as I love and worship him in SL, he always changes the subject when I turn to a real life hook-up even though we live within 100 miles of each other. What do I do? ~ MADLY IN LOVE
DEAR MADLY: Wow! This guy really should see that blazing fire of adoration inside you. Lets go through some things to see if you are communicating your love clearly enough. Hmmmm. Looking at your Profile I see that you've got a picture of you two kids kissing in your Second Life section. Check! Below the picture you have lots of squiggly things like "roses" @)~--- and "hearts" <3 . Check! You announce to the world the date of your betrothal and later marriage. Check! You have a long statement of how much you love him, how he 'completes' you and how you want to spend all of your time with him and only him. Check! The Picks section of your bio has a bunch of other pictures of him. Check! And your 1st Life section has yet another picture of him and a statement of devotion with the added "I'm already taken guys!" (Nice touch, that)
I'm sorry Madly, I don't see why he won't commit to you in the real world. Maybe you really don't love him enough. Try loving him more. A LOT more.
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