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Online Lover Goes 'Poof!'
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HEY HEARTUN: I've been in a 3 year online romance that started in There, went to The Sims Online for a while and has been in Second Life for about a year and a half now. Both of us are married in the real world so we never exchanged info outside of the game, what we have here is special but absolutely limited to here. That's why it has been particularly upsetting to me that she hasn't logged on in more than four months now -- with no warning, or explanation. At first I thought her computer might have died. Then I worried that maybe she died. I may never know. I will always miss her, but after four months I'm resolved that she isn't likely to come back into my life. Is four months enough before moving on? Part of me says it is, and part is... ~ GRIEVING ALWAYS
DEAR GRIEVING: Online relationships are measured in dog years. Four months is a long time and you are right to look for closure of some kind. I agree that you will likely grieve your loss always, but you deserve to move on. But you and I both know that she could just show up again some day too. I recommend that you treat this just like someone who loses their spouse at sea.  You have waited a suficient amount of time to declair her dead. Gather your friends for a wake. Put up framed pictures of her. Everyone wear black. Share with eachother how much you miss her. Then get on with your lives as best you can. Just be sure to take pictures of the wake in case she walks in the door some day. She'll want to see those.
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